Quote from the book, "Acknowledging What Is: Conversations With Bert Hellinger."
“If you presume that your suffering gives you the right to do evil to someone else, you negate any beneficial effects in your own soul brought about by your suffering.
“For me, the way to work through the past is to stand next to the victim and weep, without attacking the perpetrator. Crying is humble, and no one is attacked. That’s a completely different attitude from saying, ‘Look at the terrible thing you’ve done!’ Such accusations are unjust, presumptuous, and, above all, not helpful” (Hellinger and Hovel, 1999, p. 132).
Hellinger, B, Hovel, G. (1999). Acknowledging What Is: Conversations With Bert Hellinger. Phoenix, AZ: Zeig Tucker & Theisen.
http://www.amazon.com/Acknowledging-What-Is-Conversations-Hellinger/dp/1891944320
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Beautiful.
Thanks for posting this, James. This is particularly important in the context of witnessing what's going on (in any given situation) right now. It not only applies to some family dynamics I'm going through personally right now, but also to my relationship with the planet. I remember Jerome Bernstein, one of my personal heroes, saying that the Earth doesn't need us to feel guilty or point fingers; rather, she wants us to come into relationship and meet her halfway. THAT's the only way we can make a difference in the end. It was a turning point for me. This quote really makes it concrete.
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